If you want to improve your dating life, you NEED to know how to talk to girls.
“Pick-up” lines and pre-rehearsed stories will only get you so far. Without the right tools, you will never make it past boring small talk.
In this article I’ll teach you 9 keys for charming her, getting her out on a date, and making the move. It doesn’t matter if you want a girlfriend or a hook-up, these tips will get the job done.
PHASE I: How to Make the Move
In the video above I demonstrate tips #1-3 on random girls in the street.
#1: Do Not Hesitate
Listen up, because here is the secret to never getting stuck in the friend-zone…
When you notice a girl you’re attracted to, go ahead and make the move. Otherwise you will procrastinate and give up. And even if you do work up the courage to ask her out later on, she will be more likely to see you as “just a friend”.
#2: Be Direct
So, what exactly is the best way to ask a girl out?
Simple. Be honest and state your intentions. Don’t worry about being super flirty or getting her “attracted”, just ask the fucking question…
“Do you want to hang out sometime?”
And also, make it OBVIOUS why you want to hang out with her. Let her know you aren’t looking for another friend…
“I know this is random, but I think you’re really cute. Do you want to hang out sometime?”
Stop worrying about waiting for the “perfect” time, because it will never come. Instead, face your fears now. She will appreciate your boldness. And you will build self-confidence regardless of her answer.
#3: Embrace Rejection
Look man, all of us are afraid of failing and getting rejected. That shit hurts.
But think about it like THIS…
You will NEVER regret putting yourself out there and getting rejected. At least now you know that she is not into you. You can move on with your life.
However, you will ALWAYS regret not even trying in the first place. You will never know if she was actually attracted to you. You will never know the experiences you might have shared.
PHASE II: Effective Text Game
In this video I go in-depth on how to text girls for maximum results.
#1: Text Her Immediately
Okay, let’s imagine that you ask her out and get her number. What’s next?
Most guys wait a day or two before they text… but this is a HUGE mistake.
You want to capitalize on your momentum and set up the date as fast as possible. Otherwise the spark may fade or she may make plans with a new guy she meets.
A simple, “Hey Julia, this is David” message is enough to get the conversation started.
#2: Keep the Goal in Mind
Another big mistake guys make is getting stuck in long text conversations.
You might think you’re doing well because she’s responding, but really you’re just showering her with validation and becoming another texting buddy in her phone.
Always remember your #1 goal: make a plan to meet in person. This is where you will flirt with her and find out if there’s a connection… not via text messages.
Keep small talk to a minimum before the date. After she answers your first text, only send 2-3 more messages before you start planning the date.
#3: Make Concrete Plans
When you schedule a date via text, you want to make sure you are both on the same page.
Here are 3 easy steps for making plans…
- Get her to commit again: “Do you want to hang out sometime this week?”
- Find a day: “What nights are you free?”
- Suggest a plan: “Let’s meet at X bar for drinks. Does 8 or 9 work for you?”
At this point, you have successfully scheduled a date.
I recommend getting drinks for the first date, because it’s cheaper and less time investment than dinner or most other ideas. Plus, sitting side-by-side at a bar is an easy, low pressure environment for chatting and flirting.
PHASE III: The First Date Blueprint
If you want to learn even more about my first date gameplan, watch the video above.
#1: Confirm, Confirm, Confirm
If you don’t confirm your date, there is a high chance of flaking.
Humans are creatures of habit. If we can find an excuse to avoid attending an event, there’s a good chance we’ll take it. And girls are no exception to this rule.
You need to check-in and confirm the date MULTIPLE times…
- The night before: “Hey Julia, hope your weeks going well. We still good for tomorrow at 9?”
- And again the afternoon of the date: “Hey see you at 9 tonight”
Following up is so crucial because it makes the plan feel REAL in her mind. It also makes it harder for her to justify being lazing and flaking. By simply sending these 2 messages, you will almost guarantee she shows up.
#2: Hug Her Immediately
First impressions are crucial — wear a sharp outfit and hug her as soon as she arrives.
Don’t hesitate and wait to see what she’s going to do. Don’t give her a handshake. Take the lead and get the date started on the right foot. This will avoid awkwardness and make both of you feel comfortable together.
I know this sounds basic, but honestly getting the small stuff right is more than half the battle. Put yourself in a good position to succeed, and the rest of the night will be easy.
#3: Keep the Conversation Focused on Her
Ok, so what are some easy conversation topics you can use on the date?
Simple. Keep the majority of the conversation focused on her…
- Find out what she is passionate about
- Discover her most exciting stories
- Make guesses what shes likes (in a flirtatious way)
When you consistently drive the conversation towards her, it makes it a lot easier to think of things to say. Plus, people love talking about themselves so it will be fun and engaging for her as well.
RECAP: How to Talk to Girls
The best way to talk to girls is to be honest and keep things moving forward.
You should always ask her out as soon as possible to steer clear of the friend-zone and avoid wasting your time. When texting, always set the date up as soon as possible so you can actually hang out with her in person.
And finally, when you’re on the date, keep the conversation focused on her passions and experiences. She will love talking about herself, and also quickly become curious about you.
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For sure! Glad it helped
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This is accurate.
Also, I don’t know if it’s cultural differences or what, but white men seem to be the ones who need to read this, especially rule #1. They are more likely to hesitate and/or drop the ball more than men of other races. My female friends comment about this, too. I cannot tell you how many times I’ve liked someone and they’ve just…floudered. LATER they’ll say something like, “Oh, I didn’t want to assume/be rude/overstep.”
Sigh. Usually, they admit this AFTER I’ve already met someone else.
Thanks so much. I’m in middle school, but I’m sure these tips will help me
Awesome tips. Straight to the point. Thanks
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A great piece of advice, straight to the point and actionable tips to follow.
Here are some more actionable tips on how to talk to girls –
1. Don’t try too hard on being funny or interesting. Keep up with the flow where the conversation is heading.
2. Compliment her but not too much.
3. Make conversation interesting by talking about her interests and hobbies, what she likes, her job, her life etc.
4. Be your true self. Don’t pretend, give her the time she needs to be interested in you as well.
5. Focus your attention to her instead of yourself.
Hope this helps, if you want some more tips on how to talk to girls check out my blog.
this was very helpful thankyou!
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Great tips. Confirmation is key, but Im careful not to overdo it. Dont wanna coe off as needy
True, but from my experience the 2 confirmation texts I mention in the article are far from needy (on their own).
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Thank you so much david for all the help you give and provide to people, you have had such a positive effect on my life with all of your videos and i sincerely do appreciate all the free content and paying it forward 🙂 you are a light in the lives of so many that are wondering through the fog of life, don’t ever change and keep it up 🙂
Thank you Justin! Your comment just made my day.
Great content, David. The quality of videos have been entertaining and on point!!
Keep it up!!
Thanks Hamad! Appreciate the support brother
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amazing tipz! 10/10
Thanks man, hope this will help me to step up my game. I don´t have a problem talking to girls, but once I ask them out for a date I have quite a bad time. I don´t know why I get rejected so often but I will just keep going. I don´t care if I have to get rejected 100 times in order to find that perfect girl after the 101st attempt!
You got the right attitude bro! Keep beasting
Nice game plan. The hug is a really good move. I wrote an article on “the Text Game” on my blog, it could come in handy. Nice article.
I reckon a lot of your good advice would work for men who are not hetrosexual too! Thanks for all the information you provide mate, I’m new to your website and videos…well pleased I’ve found a good coach!
Yeah definitely! And thanks man, I’m glad you found me as well!
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I want to thank you for the way you influenced me, since I watched many of your videos, I feel way more confident after reading different articles and watching videos, and I will try and ask my crush out as soon as possible after school, since the main message you gave me is that rejection is nothing bad..
Keep on making that awesome content mate, greetings from Germany! :^)
Thank you for the comment bro! Glad to help! Keep beasting!
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Still working on me
Thanks David…but I’ve a question
The girl I planned a date with flaked at last moment by mentioning she would call me later…but she didn’t.I had confirmed her earlier about the date too.And she didn’t even text me the reason.Should I try again?
Try one more time if you want. But then let her go
shes probs fuckin someone else xx
I feel this is how reality works, guys learn by doing, girls learn by doing nothing, which means they learn faster and quicker, more younger on average than guys do.
Yeah but girls mature faster
Bro this confidence advise is sooo LEGIT! It’s working and my mindset has gone in a far better way. I feel more confident already and pulled a few numbers today. Thanks!
You’re welcome bro!
bro am new to ur website.i am having a problem talking aith ladies because of I dnt knw how to approach them at first sight nd wat to say to them If eventually I approach them.
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I thought it would be “yet another useless advices” that I usually read just for lulz , but I have to admit that you know what you are talking about and it would work with most girls. However I would recommend to be more careful with “let her talk about herself and focus on her”. Not everyone likes it, at least do not turn it into interrogation and look at the reaction. I hate answering questions about job, hobbies and all this kind of stuff. Feels like a job interview, not a date.
thanks david appriciate yo help!
This is Rizwan. I am a Pakistani student studying here in United States. In my initial 2 years that I have been here, I used to be very hesitant and unconfident of approaching girls, as well as to complete the game: get them to be my girlfriend.
I can’t thank you enough for giving a comprehensive guide (through your videos) for men like me, to become confident, groom themselves, and approach women with confidence.
You’re welcome bro!
ya dont need this to help you really hun xx all you need is the confidence to be yourself
Thanks David your the best . Here in South Africa, black girls are not in to that. So i find it very difficult to approach. I really need ur help again bro.
everything in this article is generally true besides avoiding long text convos , most girls like a guy who can keep a long convosation going xx otherwise this is good advice for most guys
Hi the issue of mine is not talking to girls sometimes but it is how to react or what after i have invited her. I always gut stucked after words like how are you or how was your day i really find it difficult to keep the conversation going specially if the presume girl is not contributing .. I need more tips..
I liked your article but I hve a doubt?
How we can talk to a girl for the first time when she is with her friend ?
I am not yet where I wish to be, but thanks to you I have learned a lot and I have made many changes I feel great thanks David! -From Mexico
Great article, man. I’ve never been good at asking people out, but I’d like to change that.
Also, I have a few questions. What you do if you already know the person to some degree, and already have her number and stuff? Do you still procede with phase 1 as planned, and/or is there anything else that you would need to modify?
Im a girl and I just wntd to check to see if these were true. they all are but don’t worry if ur grl don’t text u back for a hour or two. shes probs doing girly things but we like fast repliers cause if u r too slow we will get bored an move onto the next guy. just be sweet and tell her how lucky u r to have her. u never know she might have as low self confidence as u xx hope this helped. also call her! we like it!!!!!
my girlfriend just dumped me,i guess she got a new boyfriend but i love her. is there anyway i can do to get her back cause we staying far from each other. we in different institution.please help
Great article you have there. Thanks alot bro I really appreciate this. At least I have learned something new regarding on my problem so onces again thanks alot.
Thanks bro for the tips they really helped
I meet one girl in instagram.
She already broke up her ex-bf past 3 years relationship and i also.
I connect with but she dont forget past memories.
We just start whatsup from this month. In the starting she talk but from last week she ingore so please help me how i getchee in my life?
David I like your page so much and asking a question that i am innocent adult hesitating so much about talking and making perfect views towards me but sometimes anxiety revolving around me. What should i do to make bestie in his mind.
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Hey man i’m thai(asian) and i was wondering if i could still have a chance even if her impression of me isn’t so good.(nerdy she knows how i feel and havent done anything…)
1st of all, you always have a chance. ALWAYS! Its all about playing the hand you are dealt.. Girls also want what they can’t have. Since she already knows you like her then there’s no challenge for her. Try this game on her, to get her at least a little interested
Start ignoring her but be nice to her still. This will get her attn. Then act like your interested in one of the “geeky” girls’. Ask the girl you like for tips on a good present for a girl b/c your girlfriends b-day is coming up. So now she KNOWS you are not into her anymore and she will want that feeling back! Trust that. Have Fun. Give her some Asian persuasion. That’s what I call it. I’m half Asian and pretty geeky too.
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does this work for girls who like girls?
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nice, quite informative
Hey david! I stumbled upon your page and although I am a girl I think this helped me too so thnks;)
I love girls
Quality content as usual.
Cool blog, I’m Dutch and just comparing some things between the Dutch blogs and yours. Some/most dating coaches here recommend a date with more motion, because you can more easily have (gentle) physical contact with the girl without making it weird. You for example could meet at the local Railway station, city park and then walk to your destination. I am very curious to your opinion about this and as well to your opinion about the next issue:
I personally don’t like hugs to much, so when I date someone, I usually go by kissing her on the cheeks. (Is also more common here with amongst people above 30 years old. I am not that hold, but just feel very uncomfortable with hugging when meeting, not when leaving.) I am very interested what you think about the topic of motion in a date and kissing on the cheeks as a greeting on a (first) date.
great article, quite informative
thank you so much for this, very straight up and badass! although, whats your advice if she never brings up hanging in person or at least doesn’t put much effort into doing so? she’s kind of the texty type…
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Cheers, David. Another super helpful guide. As silly as it sounds, a step by step blueprint really takes the pressure off.
David, seriously after watching you videos I can approach any girl at any time, your extreamly inspiring. I am actually having a hard time understand how just your videos alone have changed me so much thankyou so much man.
Even if I find a woman very attractive, I never approach. This is because I know that as a guy, I have to compete with other guys for women’s attention. Since other guys are more attractive than I am, I know I will not be chosen. As well, unattractive guys like me are usually labelled as creepy, which means we risk being accused of harassment just for saying hello. As such, it’s better to just keep my feelings inside and never show them.
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Hi bro just discovered you on YouTube and your videos have inspired me I will be putting this to test in few next week step by step as seen on here I think the laid back and no hype approach is something more suited to my personality. greetings from uk
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Do you think teens should pick up girls (i am 15 y.o.)?because i always fail when i try and i think this happens because the girl is scared.what do you think i should do?
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Thanks David, I really like your content. However, I’m not as masculine as you as I’m only 5ft7 and slightly skinny. Also here in Australia, there’s recently been a “If you seen a women being made uncomfortable…call it out” slogan going around. Hence, I’m a bit nervous about trying this out. I’m not scared about being rejected, I’m more worried about being “called out “if I fail (which will probably happen in my first dozen attempts) Can I please get your thoughts on how I could work with what I have? I don’t know why I don’t have a girlfriend as my friends say I’m quite good looking, funny and multitalented.
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very good! I have always been interested in approaching in a seductive way since the first contact, then I always thought I wanted to improve as a man by understanding seduction and self-control.
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Hey! I like how you go straight to the point, no b.s. or fluff. It’s nothing like those water down stuff you read on mainstream websites.
Dudes this is great advice if you are still trying to figure out how to talk to girls.
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This dont work on me.
I tried this and i got shot down 5times before i gave up,not saying its bad just saying im the problem in this situation, anyway i found out a way that works for me, there is this girl im pretty sure is into me, my method was i joked about how her brothers and dad would over react to me and talked about things we each love doing, and that light hearted tease he talks about, try stuff like this along with the strategies David talks about
So far – clean of results, will keep trying
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You forgot what to do at the end. Always go for a kiss at the end. She may give you a cheek for w/e reason, but she still may be willing to meet up later. Girls have a lot of options nowadays, so you’ve got to lean toward moving more aggressively (but not too much…unless you’re chad)
What do i do if she rejects me but i still want to get with her?
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Good post mate. Have to be honest, I’m still a bit anxious to try it out in real life though. Cheers!
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What are some effective conversation starters or topics that can help to create engaging and meaningful conversations with women, and how can one navigate potential awkwardness or nervousness in approaching and talking to someone they are interested in?